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Some days feel difficult and that’s ok. It’s not healthy to strive for happiness all of the time. Trying to force happiness at inappropriate times can signal mental health issues, such as mania. If your dog dies or a relationship ends negative emotions are appropriate. We need to process our emotions and feel them so we can move forward.
Emotional processing occurs when a person experiences a negative event and can cope with the event as time passes. We all face challenges that cause fear, sadness, and anxiety but these feelings are temporary for the majority of people.
There are many ways to process, or reduce, emotions. You don’t want to get stuck feeling sad or angry long-term, right? Masking emotions with unhealthy behaviors or blocking them doesn’t help us feel better.
Use music as a healthy way to process emotions. Sad music lets us grieve and gets tears out so that we can feel our emotions and heal. Also, angry music lets us feel anger and safely release it. So, use our Breakup Recovery playlist as a catalyst for emotional health.
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After processing emotions, consider using the Three P’s of optimism, Personalization, Pervasiveness, and Permanence to change thinking patterns from negative to positive. Also, think about lessons learned from your experience. You can benefit from post-traumatic growth by finding benefits in negative events. For instance, you might decide to listen more, talk through challenges, or take time to go back to school or learn guitar. Emotional processing can also help us avoid past mistakes and this can be combined with post-traumatic growth to create your Best Possible Future.
• Kendeyl Johansen is a tech-geek creating multimedia content to increase happiness, wellbeing, and health for individuals and organizations.
• Shellee Godfrey creates happiness for her clients as a Systems Analyst and writes comedy screenplays based on her smart and sassy 80’s diva background.